Free Training & Resources
For LDS Bishops helping Distressed Couples
30 minute in-person or online training for LDS Bishops with time to ask questions after. This training is designed to help Bishops be prepared for distressed couples who may seek them out in a time of difficulty: betrayal, disclosure, possible divorce, or loss of love...
This training provides both personal and professional insights from BeckyLynn Spotten, Clinical Mental Health Counselor, and owner of the Peak Wellness Group. You will learn more of her story having worked with 6 different Bishops over 16 years. In 2014, in the middle of her own marriage struggles, BeckyLynn returned to graduate school for a Master's in Professional Couseling, completed many additional trainings/certifications. She is currently on the path to become a Certified Emotionally Focused Counselor. She credits the EFT attachment model for helping her find happiness in her second marriage, blend family dynamics, and remain active in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. She wants to give back to the many hours compassionate Bishops served her and her former husband by providing support and training to leaders volunteering their time in the church today.
This is a private page for Bishops, Stake Presidents, and those who do not get paid to help distressed members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. The best way to share it is by downloading the virtual business card for bishops (QR link), couples in distress has a QR link to a page for them, and please let us know how we can help.
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4 Steps to Help Distressed Couples
We will cover these 4 steps and much more in the training and provide additional resources through email.
Soft Heart & Open Mind:
Begin with a prayer and breathing to regulate heart rate and bring greater connection to the Spirit for Guidance and connection. Sign up to receive a 3 minute guided meditation designed for this purpose. |
Ask "What hurts the most?"
We often assume what would be most painful to us is the same for the couple. This is not true. Listen carefully and they will tell you the deeper pain. You will be able to mourn with them as the Prophets taught in the B.O.M. |
Go slowly and Make it safe!
couples may dive in to accusations and blaming very quickly. Slow them down. Validate emotions, as you try to understand facts. Pause when you see one partner hurting. Verbalize what you notice. |
Get support!
Couples therapy is one of the most challenging in the mental health field. It takes time and expertise to make positive change. A personal referral from you can help distressed couples reduce harm to each other and ultimately heal faster. |
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When you share your email with us we will send you a welcome email with helpful resources and a few brief training videos. We know you are busy and we want to support you in serving distressed couples.
We don't have time for Spam so you will not get any from us. You can expect to hear from us 1-2 times per month. |
For Couples you refer to us, we offer Intensive Therapy options that condenses down the distressing timeline of traditional weekly therapy.
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